In Defense of Foster Parenting
This blog by Foster the Family is an important read because it emphasizes the need for foster parents versus adoptive parents.
“Foster parents are necessary because many children only need temporary homes. Foster parents are necessary because not every child who will ultimately be adopted can be immediately placed in an adoptive family.”
I’ll never forget the wide eyes staring back at me. I told a worker friend of mine the (I thought, very exciting) news that my foster son was going to be adopted by my dear friend. The look was that just-so combination of horror, disgust, and “oh-how-nice.” I wanted to clap back at her (nonverbal) judgement: “You. were. the. one. who drilled it into my head that foster care is temporary.” Instead, I kept my lips locked and took to the internet. I wrote about how “I said no to adopting my foster son, because I’m just a foster mom.”
I wanted to normalize the discussion of foster parents being just foster parents. I wanted to shut down the assumption that foster parents must adopt the children who are placed in their homes.